Shop For a Therapist Like You Would a Surgeon

Shop For a Therapist Like You Would a Surgeon

When crisis happens with your health, longevity and functionality are at steak. Looking for a doctor for back surgery or brain surgery is less about how much they charge and more about who knows them, their reputation and success rate. You shop doctors for serious...
Conversations With a “Love Child”

Conversations With a “Love Child”

As a therapist specializing in families I run into quite a lot of unique family dynamics. The love child is one dynamic I have run into only once in the last three years. This could be that only about 3% of children born are the product of an affair. It also may have...
Emotionally Life-rafting: Your Children

Emotionally Life-rafting: Your Children

Up until 3-4 centuries ago children were not seen as needing special treatment after they were weaned. The history of our children is quite sad. They have been killed, abused, used for labor in factories and for many other abhorrent adult satisfactions. Since the dawn...
Coping With Your Ex Moving On

Coping With Your Ex Moving On

First comes what you thought was love, maybe marriage, possibly a baby and then… a split. If you are reading this there has been a split and the rest has happened in no specific order. Welcome to modern relationships. The freedom of choice, social acceptance of...
Behavior: Sometimes It’s Not What it Seems

Behavior: Sometimes It’s Not What it Seems

You are in therapy with your child for behavior issues, or you are looking into it. Your family could be dealing with a variety of issues; anger, hitting, throwing, tantrums, bed wetting, fear and the list goes on. “Symptoms”, as we call them in my field,...
Taking a Break from Therapy

Taking a Break from Therapy

Is taking a break from therapy giving up, lazy or losing hope? This comes up a lot in therapy with myself and for my clients who are committed to their work. As a client, you want to get better and move on with your life and the therapist wants to work with people...
A Diet Plan for Your Marriage

A Diet Plan for Your Marriage

There is a diet for everything these days, isn’t there? Now there is one for your marriage. It is easy to follow but, like every diet, will take work to implement.¬†Many couples want a quick fix. “How long will it take to fix this?” How long has it...

Clients Want “Counseling Tips”

You are thinking about getting a counselor because you want some tips on life. Tips, advice, opinions, should, must, etc, these are all no-no words in the counseling profession. We are actually trained NOT to give advice in session. If you happen to find yourself in...

What Lies Beneath

You are in your living room with your spouse and two kids feeling like an outsider. Your spouse just connects with the kids more. Even more now that they are adults. You feel like a fourth wheel on a tripod motorcycle. You carry in some dinner to the dining room...