Who Counseling Can Help
Counseling Can Help Anyone
Aware of it or not, counseling can help anyone. Usually, though, whatever “it” is, “it” is only a problem if you say so. Language and culture have a ton of power over what someone thinks is worthy of needing counseling.
When I say counseling can help anyone, I mean it. This has been true for Piper, the office therapy dog. Even though she is a dog, her story is very relevant for us humans. She, too, has gone through a huge transformative process that has involved exposure to things way outside her comfort zone. However, Pipers confidence has grown in leaps and bounds.
Piper is a Border Collie who was born on a farm in Lebanon, Missouri. Her mom and dad are legit herding dogs who breed more farm dogs to work the local farms. (I just used the word farm a whole lot; I think you got it!)
So, there were about four litters of puppies born at the same time as Piper. Without knowing how many puppies in each litter, that is about 20 puppies living in the barn together with their parents. Piper came to me much like you will–not much else of her past was known; but unlike you, she is unable to share her experiences with me through language over time.
Having had a Border Collie before who was outgoing, never met a stranger, could take her anywhere, coupled with Pipers lack of speech, the assumption was that Piper would be just like the previous Border Collie. Humans make assumptions about other humans all the time based on a variety of things; the same went for Piper. No one considered she is her own unique being or that she was taken from farm living to the busy suburb. Her life experience so far was overlooked. She felt terrified.
If Piper were a human, you could say she suffers from relational anxiety. Her reaction to new people was less than desirable. She would hide like a cat, growl, and sometimes snap. She had to be carried through the threshold of doorways because she had so much fear about what lay beyond.
Piper entered counseling. If you think of relational anxiety, what could you guess someone, human or not, would need? Here is the answer: She required social learning and practice which builds confidence. Piper also needed constant exposure and to be set up for success. Everyone knows rewards work well, too. What everyone doesn’t know is that rewards work for humans as well over any other teaching method.
Eventually, with consistent and persistent therapy, Pipers relational anxiety has diminished 85%. With continued practice, she is expected to gain up to 90% comfort relating to people. Notice that is not 100% because maybe being wary is just a part of her personality. Piper will inevitably lack confidence at some point, which is okay. No one is perfect all the time, but you can certainly learn ways to cope and feel better most of the time.
Can Counseling Help You?
Like Piper, you have a hurdle and can benefit from counseling. Whatever it is, there are ways to cope and get through life’s curve balls. Counseling will teach you to think differently, reward yourself, love yourself, accept yourself and parts of your life that you can’t change.
Call me today and let’s get started!