Counseling is a transformative process some people choose to go through when they have become stuck due to normal life transitions. These transitions can include:
- Becoming a parent
- Getting married
- Death of a loved one or pet
- Creating or maintaining a relationship, etc.
Almost anything that happens in life can be something someone needs to go to counseling for. It really depends on the person and how they can cope with what is going on.
Counseling Is Like Going to the Gym
Think of going to counseling like going to the gym. Sometimes it’s easy to go to the gym, do the routine, and see results. We all know about plateaus, though. When a plateau happens, it can be of great help to hire a trainer 1-2 times a week to get you over the hump. By seeing a trainer, you benefit from their study of the body; from their knowledge and expertise in diet; and new studies on exercise.
People trying to get over a fitness hump usually stick with their personal trainer for 3 months to a year depending on where they started in comparison to what their goals are. It’s a commitment which means you must keep appointments and do the work to see the progress. Not only that, the work doesn’t stop when you leave the trainer; you have to take what you learned and apply it independently in the gym and at home.
Exercise is a great tool to explain how counseling works because counseling is exercise for the mind.
All the same principles apply in order to achieve the desired results. What is a bit different is the ability to see the results.
Transformation of a body is easy to measure. You weigh in, take measurements, get new clothes; it is generally straight forward.
The mental transformation takes a shift from the obvious and requires a little more attention to implement and notice. Think of the difference between doing a jigsaw puzzle versus a brain teaser-type puzzle.
As your mind transforms, chemicals in your body (like cortisol, serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin, norepinephrine and epinephrine) are all effected. You will notice these changes with your mood and possibly in your weight.
The way you interact with others and how they relate to you will change as well; the whole process will seem easier, more enjoyable.
You have more power than you know!
About Kristen Craren, LPC
Helping people like you is something I love.
I think of it as a huge honor that people allow me into their hearts and minds to find the path to the best they can be. Often someone will be telling me their story, and I can see they are embarrassed or scared. So much comfort is brought to them when they hear I have been there, or someone else has a similar story that they have eventually overcome.
Happiness is possible.
I started my journey on the path as a counselor in the school system while studying to be a teacher. I am a certified elementary school teacher and school counselor. During my internships working with kids ranging from St. Louis Public to Rockwood, I realized I wanted to work directly with the families I was referring out to resources.
I decided to get my Master’s in Counseling at The University of Missouri, Saint Louis. (You may know this as UMSL.) They have such an amazing program there. I studied under the wing of some great professors, but the real lessons came in sessions with people like you.
You get to benefit from all the things I have learned in school and from past clients who mean so much to me.
Give me a call. Let’s do this together. I truly believe in YOU.